Parental Alienation – Is this Oakland County’s most toxic divorce ever?

Is this Oakland County’s most toxic divorce ever?

Omer Tsimhoni and his ex-wife Maya Eibschitz-Tsimhoni, have been litigating their divorce for almost eight years over custody of their three kids.

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If bitter divorces ever become an Olympic event, Omer Tsimhoni and his ex-wife, 

Maya Eibschitz-Tsimhoni, might compete for the gold medal.

Their case in Oakland County became internationally infamous when the judge locked up the couple’s three children for refusing to have lunch with their father. But it’s also unique for its scale, cost and collateral damage.

More: Michigan high court rejects suspension on judge who jailed kids in custody fight

Consider some of the numbers:

  • Almost 8 years of litigation
  • 1,001 docket entries thus far
  • 21 lawyers, including 16 for Eibschitz-Tsimhoni alone
  • Three Oakland County judges and several trips to the Michigan Court of Appeals
  • Related cases filed in U.S. District Court in Detroit and also in courts in Israel
  • $400,000 plus in legal fees.

„It’s the most toxic case I’ve heard of since I’ve been practicing,“ said Birmingham lawyer Henry Baskin, who’s handled hundreds of divorces in almost 60 years of practice. „It’s war between these people. There’s hate, there’s vindictiveness. Everybody gets burned.“

Baskin, like many lawyers in metro Detroit, has watched the case closely. He’s never been hired by either side, but considering the number of lawyers who have been, he quipped „I think 20% of the bar is involved in the case.“

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‚Worst nightmare‘

Oakland County Circuit Judge Lisa Gorcyca was nearing the end of her first year in office in December 2009, when she was assigned randomly case No. 766749-DM.

The DM code denotes a divorce case involving minor children. Gorcyca, an assistant prosecutor before being elected judge, was no stranger to hostile court proceedings. But it’s doubtful she could have anticipated that this particular divorce case would alter her career so dramatically.

„This case is every judge’s worst nightmare,“ Gorcyca’s lawyer, Thomas Cranmer, later told the Michigan Judicial Tenure Commission, in defending her actions.

Omer Tsimhoni is an Israeli citizen and a former pilot for the Israeli Defense Forces. He earned a doctorate in industrial engineering from the University of Michigan and now works as a General Motors researcher.

He’s lived most of his life in Israel, but currently resides in the U.S.

Maya Eibschitz-Tsimhoni is a pediatric ophthalmologist by training, who formerly taught at the U-M Medical School. A court filing indicated she’s let her medical credentials lapse but is working to restore them.

Court records show they married in 1995 in Israel, where they both grew up, then moved to the U.S. when she accepted a job in Ann Arbor. They had three children between 2001 and 2005, who were born in the U.S. but have dual citizenship.

In November 2008, Omer Tsimhoni returned to Israel to take a job with General Motors and hopes of bringing his family back with him eventually. The family moved to Israel but several months later, Eibschitz-Tsimhoni returned to Michigan with the children.

More: Judge Lisa Gorcyca has lawyers‘ support despite misconduct ruling

Lawsuits start

In December 2009, Eibschitz-Tsimhoni filed for divorce in Oakland, claiming the marriage had broken down and her husband was trying to take the children back to Israel.

Tsimhoni responded by filing court cases in Israel claiming his wife had kidnapped the children and also in U.S. District Court in Detroit, claiming she’d violated the Hague Convention, a multi-country treaty which seeks to protect children from abduction across international boundaries.

While the divorce case proceeded, Eibschitz-Tsimhoni was awarded temporary custody of the children and the acrimony soon escalated. He had once called police claiming his wife slapped his face as he tried to leave the house after an argument.

She later sought a personal protection order, claiming he assaulted her in front of her children. When the children visited their father, he was required to surrender his passport to Eibschitz-Tsimhoni, who held it until the children returned to her.

As the tensions grew, exchanging children became so hostile that police were needed to mediate the transfer. By September 2010, Gorcyca ordered psychiatric evaluations for the children, and the parents.

Parental alienation

Two months later, Tsimhoni made his first claim of parental alienation, arguing his wife was deliberately turning the children against him. Eibschitz-Tsimhoni denied it, claiming the children were afraid of their father, whom she said had been abusive toward them and that she couldn’t force them to love someone.

The issue would continue for years.

In August, 2011, the judgment of divorce was entered, granting joint custody but with the children living with their mother most of the time. Tsimhoni was ordered to pay $1,750 a month in child support.

The acrimony continued with Omer Tsimhoni continuing to claim that his children had been poisoned against him, barely speaking to him when they were together.

Eventually the children began protesting spending time with their father at all, and Gorcyca sought to enforce their father’s rights to see them. She’d order the children to spend time with their father, but they refused. At one point, they linked arms in the hallway to try to prevent them from being taken into court.

By early 2015, Gorcyca began warning the children that if they continued to defy her orders, they could be held in contempt and sent to Children’s Village, the county’s youth shelter/juvenile detention center.

She also continued to pressure Eibschitz-Tsimhoni to facilitate parenting time for their father. Gorcyca grew so frustrated with the mother that that on April 2, 2015, she order Eibschitz-Tsimhoni to report to the court at 9 a.m. and be detained in the courthouse lockup until 4:30 p.m.

Manson reference

At a hearing on June 23, 2015, Gorcyca threatened to jail Eibschitz-Tsimhoni if the children didn’t improve their behavior toward their father.

She ordered the children to meet with their father the following day in her court. One of the children met with her father at 9 a.m. in the jury room beside Gorcyca’s courtroom, but word soon reached Gorcyca that the child was not interacting with Tsimhoni.

Gorcyca spoke to the child briefly, then wrote a script for Eibschitz-Tsimhoni to read to all the children, explaining that their father loved them. When three children returned to the jury room about 11:30 a.m., they still refused to communicate with their father.

Gorcyca began contempt hearings against the children. The oldest child apologized to Gorcyca but refused to apologize to his father, saying his father was violent and had hit his mother.

Gorcyca told the boy his behavior was the worst she’d seen in 46,000 cases.

„You, young man are the worst one,“ she said. „So you bought yourself living in Children’s Village going to the bathroom in public and maybe summer school.“

Sheriff deputies then handcuffed the boy, who was 14 at the time.

She compared the boy’s actions to those of cult leader Charles Manson and made a circular motion with her finger near her ear as she said it.

„Dad, if you ever think that he has changed, and therapy has helped him and he’s no longer like Charlie Manson’s cult, then you let us know,“ Gorcyca said.

She eventually held all three children in civil contempt and ordered them held at Children’s Village for the summer and scheduled a review of their detention for September.

„No one from Mom’s side is allowed to visit any child at Children’s Village,“ Gorcyca wrote in an order.

The Michigan Supreme Court last week ruled that Gorcyca committed judicial misconduct when she „directed disparaging and demeaning remarks“ at the children. It rejected a 30-day suspension recommended by the Michigan Judicial Tenure Commission and ruled that a public censure was enough.

Media storm

News of the detention soon exploded in media coverage in the U.S., Europe and Israel. The case became a flash point in the parental rights argument.

Fathers‘ Rights groups ralliedto the side of Omer Tsimhoni, agreeing that he was the victim of parental alienation. Other groups rallied to the side of the mother, claiming the children can’t be ordered to love someone.

Facebook pages quickly sprung up promoting one side or the other. Two GoFundMe pages were set up to raise money for legal fees for Eibschitz-Tsimhoni, who would later acknowledge paying a public relations firm $10,000 to represent her side of the issue through social media and other means.

She also claimed to have spent more than $400,000 in legal fees, though at least one of her attorneys asked to quit the case over unpaid bills.

The children spent 17 days at Children’s Village before Gorcyca agreed to release them to attend a Jewish summer camp.

In July, 2015, Omer Tsimhoni asked the court to grant him sole custody of the children and in August, they were placed in a 5-day reunification program, aimed at addressing parental alienation. After that, Gorcyca gave their father temporary custody and ordered their mother to have no contact with them for 90 days.

Eibschitz-Tsimhoni wouldn’t see her children again in person for almost nine months, reuniting with them in April 2016.

Collateral damage

In September 2015, Eibschitz-Tsimhoni accused Gorcyca of being biased and asked Gorcyca to recuse herself. Gorcyca refused.

Eibschitz-Tsimhoni appealed to Oakland County Chief Judge Nanci Grant, who declined to hear the request, citing a possible appearance of impropriety. The case was turned over to St. Clair County Judge Daniel Kelly, who ruled that Gorcyca should remain on the case.

The Michigan Judicial Tenure Commission filed a misconduct complaint against Gorcyca over her actions in the case. Gorcyca insisted she’d done nothing wrong, but asked Grant to reassign the case. She did, giving it to longtime Judge Joan Young.

Gorcyca was now off the case, but found herself battling the misconduct charges.

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Cranmer, Gorcyca’s attorney, later asked the Michigan Supreme Court to dismiss the charges, saying Gorcyca’s actions were a one-time occurrence, borne of years of frustration with the case.

„Everything that she did in this case … with the exception of the hearing on the 24th … indicates her good faith and due diligence,“ Cranmer said.

Lynn Helland, executive director of the Tenure Commission, disagreed.

„It is a referendum on whether Michigan permits its angry judges to insult, berate and ridicule children and demonstrate a loss of impartiality and with the barest of nods to due process, find a child in contempt of an order that didn’t exist,“ Helland said.

Oakland County has spent $111,000 in legal fees defending Gorcyca against the charges.

Commission head fired

Gorcyca wasn’t the only person to have her career affected by the Tsimhoni case.

In September 2016, Paul J. Fischer, the executive director of the Tenure Commission who filed the complaint against Gorcyca, was fired. He later claimed in a lawsuit that he was the victim of religious discrimination because he is an Orthodox Jew.

Fischer said that shortly after the news reports of the children being sent to Children’s Village, he received a letter from Roey Gilad, the consul general of Israel for the Midwest, expressing concern about Gorcyca and her handling of the children, who have dual citizenship.

Gilad wanted to speak to the children and asked Fischer to ask Tsimhoni’s lawyers to arrange it. Fisher eventually passed on the request, and when he ran into one of the lawyers at a social event, handed him Gilad’s business card.

He was eventually fired by a commissioner, who is not named in the lawsuit. That commissioner had previously told Fischer, „You’re Jewish, you speak Hebrew, you’ve been to Israel,“ the suit claims.

Fischer’s lawsuit is pending in U.S. District Court.


Case continues

When Joan Young took over the case from Gorcyca, she quickly put both sides on notice that they needed to behave better.

„I like to think of this as an honorable profession … we should treat each other civilly,” Young said. She noted her disappointment at the hostile tone found in some of the pleadings, telling both sides she wouldn’t tolerate disparaging comments.

But both sides continued to fight the case. In January 2016, Eibschitz-Tsimhoni asked for custody of the children to be returned to her.

„The children lost their mother from their lives on June 24, 2016,“ Eibschitz-Tsimhoni’s lawyers wrote.

In early April, she was allowed to see them, but three days after their first reunion with their mother, their father asked again for sole custody of them.

In May, Young order the couple to take part in mediation and in June, Eibschitz-Tsimhoni was once again became primary custodial parent, having the children about 68% of the time.

Young retired in December 2016 after almost 30 years on the bench. The case was reassigned to Judge Victoria Valentine.

Eibschitz-Tsimhoni later asked for child support to help pay their expenses, saying in pleadings that she lives on an allowance from her parents in Israel of about $9,000 per month. Her ex-husband makes more than $200,000 and should pay more. she said.

Lawyers for both parents eventually withdrew from the case, but that didn’t end it. New pleadings continued to be filed as recently as earlier this month. The judgment of divorce was entered in 2011, but they continue to litigate other matters, most recently the sale of an Ann Arbor home.

Both parents now represent themselves.


Contact John Wisely: 313-222-6825 or On Twitter @jwisely

 John Wisely, Detroit Free Press Published 11:02 p.m. ET July 30, 2017
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PAS-Gerichtsurteil mit „Parental Alienation Therapie“

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Oakland County Richterin Lisa Gorcyca


Die 3 Kinder wurden gezwungen, mit ihrem „gewaltsamen“ Vater zu leben und bekommen lt. gerichtlichen Urteil eine angeordnete

„Parental Alienation Therapie“ 

Drei Kinder aus Michigan sind in der Jugendstrafanstalt, weil Sie Ihren  angeblich gewalttätigen Vater nicht sehen wollten.

Die Kinder sind gegen ihren Willen wieder vereint worden, nachdem Sie gezwungen wurden eine Parental Alienation-Therapie zu machen.

Sie leben jetzt mit ihren Vater

Die Saga begann im Juli, als die drei Kinder – im Alter von 9, 11 und 14 – eine Beziehung zu ihrem Vater, Omer Tsimhoni, nicht haben wollen, weil er gewalttätig sei, sagte Richterin Lisa Gorcyca. Sie fügte hinzu, dass sie die Mutter getroffen hatten.

„Ich werde mich nicht entschuldigen –weil ich mit meinen Vater nicht gesprochen habe und bin  für ihn nicht zu sprechen, weil ich einen Grund dafür habe, und das ist, weil er gewalttätig ist – ich sah ihn wie er meine Mutter getroffen hat, und ich werde nicht mit ihm reden“, 

sagte der 14 Jährige damals, laut den Aufzeichnungen von Oakland County Circuit Court.

Aber Richterin  Gorcyca war alles andere als sympathisch,

erzählt das älteste Kind, dass sein Vater noch nie eines Verbrechen angeklagt worden ist, und dass er sich „verbiegen“ würde ( jump through hoops “), um eine Beziehung mit seinen Kindern zu haben.

Allerdings ging eine Anweisungen der Richterin über eine verbale Zurechtweisung an die Kinder.
Die Richterin war frustriert, dass die Kinder ihre Befehle nicht befolgten – zu Mittag mit ihrem Vater zu verbringen – und verurteilte sie zum Aufenthalt im Kinderdorf,  einer Jugendstrafanstalt (Boot Camps).

Obwohl sie später in ein Sommerlager überführt wurden, kam es nach dem Umzug zu einer öffentlichen Gegenreaktion.

„Ich fühle mich beobachtet und vorgeführt“, sagte  die Mutter,  Maya Tsimhoni zu Fox Detroit zu ihrer Verordnung.

Richterin Gorcyca hatte auch Ohren für die Mutter, was bedeutet, dass sie ihre Kinder in den Stil des Sektenführers Charles Manson Kult verglichen hatte und eine Gehirnwäsche der Kinder zu ihrem Vater ablehne.

Aber es ist noch nicht zu Ende. 

Laut Gerichtsakten von der Detroit Free Press, wurde den Kinder im August fünf Tage eine intensive Parental Alienation-Therapie mit ihrem Vater aufgetragen.

Die Mutter war nicht bei den Sitzungen anwesend.

Obwohl die Gerichtsakte verschlossen ist, berichtet die Detroit Free Press einige Details, dass die intensive Behandlung selten ist, und kostet so viel wie 40.000 $.

Unterstützer des Programms sagen, es ist ein Weg, um angespannte Sorgerechtsstreitigkeiten zu beenden und sicherzustellen, dass Kinder wieder eine Beziehung zu beiden Elternteilen haben. Kritiker sagen aber, es ist in der Tat nicht genug um Kinder von beleidigenden Eltern zu schützen.

Die Kinder entfernten sich am 13. August von  ihrem Vater, seiner neue Frau und deren Halbbruder.

Der Vater, Omer Tsimhoni, hat die Richterin ersucht, dass die Mutter bis zur ersten Kontaktaufnahme und an der Schule  für die kommenden 90 Tage gesperrt wird, es ist Teil des Protokolls zur Wiedervereinigung der Kinder mit dem zerstrittenen Elternteil dies zu verbieten.

Der Vater bittet auch für eine Kürzung der $ 1700 Kindergeld, welches er pro Monat bezahlt.

Beide Eltern waren vor Gorcyca am Mittwochmorgen erscheinen, aber die Anhörung wurde vertagt.

Aber trotz dieses öffentlichen Aufschrei, hat die Richterin ihre Handlungen verteidigt und sagt es gibt noch mehr zu der Geschichte, als es derzeit scheint.
Richterin Gorcyca sagte, „Es gibt acht Dateien“ .

„Niemand hat diese Dateien jetzt von Rechts wegen überprüft und niemand  hat diese Video gesehen und dazu geantwortet. Als Ergebnis haben wir eine überreizte  falsch informierte,  fehlgeleitete Öffentlichkeit „, sagte sie im Juli.

Um die Kinder besten Interessen zu vertreten sind die Richterin Gorcyca und der Staatsanwalt William Lansat ernannt. Dieser sagte, die Mutter ist aktiv darum bemüht,  seit der Scheidung des Paares 2009, die Beziehung der Kinder zu ihrem Vater beschädigen.

Die Richterin wird sich im Oktober die Argumente der Mutter anhören, und entscheiden ob das Sorgerecht der Mutter dauerhaft beenden wird.

Via RT. Dieses Stück wurde durch nachgedruckt RINF Alternative Nachrichten mit Genehmigung oder Lizenz.


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